People often struggle to know what to say to someone who is seriously ill, to their families, or to the family of someone who has died. This article from the LA Times suggests a sort of “Ring Theory” for determining where people fall on the spectrum of intimacy with the family, and what they should say to others, depending on the relationship of everyone in the conversation.
We react emotionally to difficult situations, for good reason. But this is a helpful reminder to think carefully about how our reactions affect others.
Have you seen this new resource page with suggestions for setting up a shiva house? Several people asked us for such a list and so we put on as many recommendations as possible, including thoughts for how to help the family during the shiva period (remembering medications, trash and recycling pickup, grocery shopping, etc). The most important thing we can suggest is that you find one person to manage the tasks and a few others to whom that person can delegate.
If you have anything to add, please let us know in the comments section below.
A funeral home with a blog – seems a little strange, no? We think that as you have a chance to read our upcoming posts you will find it very useful. The purpose of this blog is to answer less formal questions about funeral practices, especially Jewish funeral practices. Also, it is a good place for us to highlight available resources that may be helpful for the families we serve, and provide updates on newsworthy events in the community and the funeral industry.
If you have any pressing questions that you have always wanted to ask a funeral director, first check our FAQ on our website or search this blog, and if you don’t see the answer to your question please let us know by sending a comment at the bottom of this page or by submitting an “Ask the Funeral Director” form. We look forward to hearing from you!
We are conveniently located just 1/2 mile north of 695, on Reisterstown Road at the intersection with Mount Wilson Lane. To reach our parking lot, turn onto Mount Wilson Lane and we are the first entrance on the right.
If you are coming to our offices: when you pull into the parking lot, continue along the right side of the building until you see the door labeled “Offices.”
If you are coming to attend a funeral: our staff should be at the entrance to the parking lot. If you are going to the cemetery, they will give you a sticker for your windshield and direct you where to park. If you are just attending the service in our building, they will tell you to park on a certain side of the lot. By parking where they indicate, it will help avoid you possibly getting blocked in by attendees for another service!
Whenever possible, we have the days and times of shiva services on an individual’s funeral notice, which can be found by visiting our website’s home page.
If you are looking on information for a funeral that has already taken place, start typing the person’s last name into the box where it says “Search by last name”, and after you have entered a few letters their name should come appear. Click on their full name and it will take you to their page.
No matter where your loved one passes, call Sol Levinson & Bros. immediately. We are the only phone call you have to make, and we contact everyone else, such as the rabbi, cemetery, doctor or out-of-state funeral home. This makes it easier (and, in the case of an out-of-town death, often less expensive!) for you and your family.