Have you ever talked to your friends or family about death? Do you know what your loved ones’ wishes are for long-term care? Have you told them what your wishes are? What does it mean to decide to send a family member to a nursing home, hospice facility or receive hospice care at home? Is your family prepared in case someone dies suddenly? What are your wishes regarding a funeral, and does your family know what they are?
The separation many of us have from death or those who are dying – due to extended life expectancy and the rise of long-term care facilities – means that this subject is rarely discussed and has almost become taboo. This does a disservice to those who are dying and those who are struggling to cope with the loss or imminent loss of a loved one. Several interesting communities and resources have recently stepped in to fill that gap.
Now you can gather a group of friends or family to discuss “Death Over Dinner“, sending out a resource for people to read in advance and then gathering to talk about your reactions or thoughts. They point out on their homepage that “How we want to die – represents the most important and costly conversation America isn’t having.” Bloomberg recently highlighted these dinners in an article which looks into some participants’ experiences. Or you can attend a “Death Cafe” which gathers people together over cake and coffee (or tea) to share their thoughts and fears about death. Back in March, NPR interviewed the man who started them, and you can read that interview here.
If you have any questions about Jewish funerals or the mourning process, funeral options available, or would like information about resources in the community, please do not hesitate to let us know.
There are many questions people have about Jewish mourning customs and the process of arranging funerals. On our website we have attempted to address the most common questions with our “Ask the Funeral Director FAQ”.
What do I do when my loved one passes away?
What should I bring when making funeral arrangements?
My family member lives out of state, but wants to be buried in Baltimore. What should I do when he/she passes away?
What if the burial is to take place out of state?
Is there a difference when a death occurs at home rather than in a hospital or nursing home? Will someone come right away?
My parent is going into a nursing home. I was advised that I could reduce their assets by pre-funding funeral expenses. How do I go about that?
Does the funeral service need to be held within 24 hours after someone passes away?
I can’t decide if I should have a chapel or graveside service. What should I consider?
I am not Jewish. What should I expect at the funeral? Is there a viewing?
Do you accept flowers? What is appropriate to send to the funeral home or shiva house?
I’m arriving from out of town for a funeral service. What transportation is available from the train station? From BWI Airport? How long a trip is it?
My family member has passed away. Should I wear a kriah ribbon? Where do I wear it?
I am planning an unveiling. Does Sol Levinson & Bros. assist with that? How do I go about planning?
I want to find the cemetery where my family member is buried. They passed away many years ago. Do you have that information?
I want to order a Yahrzeit calendar. How do I get one?
I need additional death certificates. Can you order those for me?
How do I choose pallbearers? How many should we have? How old must they be? What is the difference between active and honorary pallbearers?
What Social Security benefits may I be entitled to?
I served in the military. Are there Veteran’s benefits that I may be entitled to? How do I plan for military honors at the funeral and graveside?
Where is the shiva house? Do you have directions?
What are the days and times for shiva services?
Where can I call to get my loved one’s Hebrew name?
The headstone is knocked over at the cemetery. Who do I call for assistance?
If you have any questions that you do not see here or there are any important topics you feel we have not covered, please contact us.
We here at Sol Levinson & Bros. are extremely proud to announce the launch of our brand new website (still at sollevinson.com)!
Why would we change our award-winning site? Because we are constantly striving to make every interaction with our organization even better.
The new look still has all of the things you were able to find in the previous layout: our daily funeral schedule, the ability to watch videos of services, cemetery information and more. But we have added some important new features:
easier navigation with tabs and drop-downs at the top
a detailed map of cemeteries with contact information for chairpersons and caretakers
easy ways for you to contact us with questions or feedback so we can make sure we continue to earn those testimonials
and much more, including this blog, which will be updated on a regular basis with articles about our industry as well as details about Jewish funeral customs and more.
Please take some time to look around and acquaint yourself with the new layout and features. There may be some kinks in different versions of browsers, so please let us know. We hope you find some useful information and we look forward to using this forum to provide you with even more!