A Month of Gratitude
Grief and Gratitude...and Gratitude in Grief

November is National Gratitude Month. Creating a gratitude practice has been shown to change people's brain function for the better, and can be especially helpful for those who are grieving.
It seems strange to talk about gratitude and grief in the same sentence. However, even at one of the worst moments in our life a funeral service is an opportunity to express gratitude for who that person was and how they influenced us. And practicing gratitude in small ways can help mourners process grief, as well as support their physical and mental health.
Here are a few articles we found about gratitude specifically as it relates to grief, and some about general benefits of a gratitude practice. While some of them are written in a less serious way, they are in no way intended to minimize grief. Rather, we hope everyone (grieving or not) finds useful information here.
- How to Practice Gratitude When You’re Grieving: Step-By-Step - a write-up by Certified Grief Counselor, Dr. Alejandra Vasquez, JD, CT, who acknowledges "After losing a loved one, being grateful is not something that many of us anticipate contemplating in the middle of our grieving. Yet, it's possible to be filled with an overwhelming outpouring of gratitude and relief following a significant loss."
- How Grieving With Gratitude Saved Me (please note this article references loss of a child) - Kelly Buckley, the founder of the Facebook group "Just One Little Thing," shares how gratitude got her through this devastating loss. She points out that "[gratitude] did not change the pain of the loss. But it did alleviate some of the suffering. I started to see that all these one little things were actually the big things that really gave meaning to my life. This path of gratitude was healing me, and tethering me to the present moment as I grieved."
- The Neuroscience of Gratitude and How It Affects Anxiety & Grief -a fairly detailed article in Psychology Today about how gratitude affects the brain and body
- Cultivating an “Attitude of Gratitude” and how to start a gratitude journal, as posted by NAMI of Dane County (National Alliance on Mental Illness of Dane County)
- How to Foster Gratitude - an overview on the benefits of gratitude and tips for practicing gratitude in daily life, shared on WebMD
There are many helpful resources online and in books about ways to develop a gratitude practice - whether voicing affirmations out loud, writing a few down each morning or each night, journaling, and more. We hope you find something to bring you comfort.










